Self Sabotage Mastery
phaidenbauer • 27 Jan 2025 •
I think I managed to manoeuvre myself into self sabotage mastery. I wanted to wake up by 6 am (as I intend to do every day), but instead it was way past 8 when I finally crawled out of bed.
I wanted to go to the gym early so I can start working early. I’ll go to the gym anyway, but now later, and my workday will be extended to reach my hours.
Interestingly, I don’t procrastinate if I have an appointment in the morning, for example, I started my paramedic shift on Saturday at 5 am instead of 7 am. I got up without a problem because I knew I had to get up.
Maybe I should get my brother to call me when he gets up. That way, I would be directly accountable to someone.
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This I recognize. I think at a certain level I don’t really believe myself when I say waking up is important. I have no real urgency. I’m clinging to comfort instead. I think of energy as something I have (or not) rather than something I create. Or I just forget my intention. In other words, my habits of thought fail me when I don’t have that external push.
I would highly recommend the book The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin to find out what approach best suits you for your own tendency. The tendencies are based on how we respond to internal and external commitments. Upholders are good with keeping both kinds of commitments. Obligers (the majority of people) are only good at external commitments, not internal ones. So there’s a high chance you’re an Obliger. She offers some recommendations on how Obligers can work with their tendency.
@therealbrandonwilson I try my best to keep me accountable. :)
@Winkletter I think I can relate to that.
@haideralmosawi Thanks! I’ll have a look.
You would not like having me as a roommate, but I would ensure there would be no more self-sabotage.