Prioritizing other’s priorities
haideralmosawi • 9 Jan 2025 •
I have a bad habit of prioritizing what others want from me over what I want to do. This might be a people-pleasing tendency to not let others down. This is something I want to work on. Instead of doing tasks for other people before the projects I want to work on, I want to ensure I dedicate some time for my projects.
Unfortunately, there are projects related to my dream life that I can put off indefinitely because they’re not related to current commitments. But for such projects I need to protect the time I dedicate to them and to not let “life” (ie commitments to other people) get in my way.
Do you have the tendency to prioritize tasks other people ask you to do?
Comments
@jasonleow The approach that’ll work for me is to have a conversation with myself on why I do it, what’s at stake, and what should I be doing instead. I apply an Internal Family System’s approach to speak to my “parts”, understand them, and work with them away from beliefs/coping mechanisms that hold me back.
That’s useful! I guess I do a bit of that here, writing to think through, talking to different sides of me
I have this same problem too. I guess thats why waking up at 5am helps me, to protect some deep work time. But the fawning reflex still persists. Definitely something to work on, changing this mindset. Any ideas on how to do it?