Safe then save
jasonleow • 11 Mar 2026 •
Okay I acknowledge that I need to feel safe first before I can get unstuck and thrive.
But how? How to even start?
Brainstorming some ideas:
- Acceptance. I still fight it. Perhaps surrender is needed, to begin with.
- Get support. There’s no weakness in seeking out support. Some form of therapy, someone to speak to?
- Money. Having a financial plan to act on is reassuring. Let’s get to a 6-months savings buffer, or more. Tally monthly expenses and work on living by a lean budget.
- Stable routine. The body is easy to satisfy. No environmental stress, and consistent routines where it gets enough food, water, sleep, activity, self-care, and it will start to settle into the comfortable lull of safety.
- Time. Ultimately, I just need lots of time. Money can perhaps be rushed but emotional safety can’t be rushed.
Emotional safety, then financial safety.
Safe then save.