Self-own
jasonleow • 9 Oct 2024 •
Interesting how writing yesterday’s post about learning a lesson after a decade triggered a barrage of self reflection. (That’s the beauty of writing to think btw!)
I said I tried to do training as an income stream, but after ten years of trying hard, I still couldn’t. I suspect there’s an element of self-own here… lingo for unintentionally doing something that’s not in my own best interest:
- My conscience is clear from trying hard to get better at teaching, but to who? Who’s checking? No one’s checking… Myself?
- Who said as a consultant I got to be good at training too? Most don’t. Those who can do, they do. Those who can teach, they teach. Few can do both well.
- What am I trying to prove? Whose arbitrary standards am I striving for? To myself? Why do I need to give 110% to everything? Why do I need to be anything at all to anyone (including myself) if I’m not aligned to it?
- Why do I need to fulfil my commitments for this year? Do my clients even need it? Ever wondered if they might be fine with me dropping out? What if I just politely inform them I am not able to finish up for whatever reason? Am I that indispensable? I doubt it no.
I’m free to make my next move today, anytime. Anything I want. These rules are all self-imposed.
Time to break them all. Now.
Comments
@drodol Thanks buddy! 💪
Guess what… I emailed a client that I can’t do the workshops. And they didn’t even break a sweat. Found a replacement immediately. My worries about fulfilling my commitments had been greatly exaggerated.
Dude, your sense of relief must be through the clouds!
Niiiiice! I often tell people you can almost always renegotiate commitments. We impose rules on ourselves that are more rigid than they need to be!
@drodol Yes! Relievedddddd
@haideralmosawi Yes so true. I tend to do that to myself very often.
So much power in this Jason!