Switching core identity

I’ve always been driven by my own individual dreams.

Be this. Do that. Achieve something.

But maybe why I feel stuck these days is because my entire core identity had changed. Being a father had now swallowed up all the other identities. Not about being indie hacker. Or nomad. Or giving back to society. But being a ghost of my kid’s future.

“We’re just here to be memories for our kids. Once you’re a parent, you’re the ghost of your children’s future.” – Interstellar

This is what it is all about.

Everything that I’m trying to work towards right now, is for this. Creating a great memory for my kid. All my past selves, are gone. I’m just a ghost of my son’s future. Within that arc, I try to do something I love, something I find meaningful, something I want. But I’m irrevocably… beyond myself now.

It’s wild how powerful this force is.

This being a parent.

Maybe now I have to change my dream, my main driving force for being. Not about hitting $10k/m. Or creating a great product. But making change for my country.

Now I provide for my wife and kid. And give them the best lives possible. That’s it.

Maybe this is what being a dad, husband, son truly is:

It’s no longer dreams just for myself, but for others.